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greenlemons105 t1_iugu0ub wrote

I’d like to think OP’s “sort of funny” comment is in a coping mechanism way since dementia is awful for the individual and their loved ones. Not funny “haha”, funny “this is saddening but I’m trying to cope with this painful reality”

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mistermaster415 OP t1_iuh8y25 wrote

It sort of is, our family has always been the type to laugh at our misfortunes, and nan did the same with her mother. She laughs with us, we all dont take things to heart

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BoredGoard t1_iuhj5w9 wrote

My mom called me one time and said “Well… your grandma is pregnant.” She then went on to tell me my grandma said she was pregnant and my mom told her “Mother, you haven’t had a uterus in over twenty years.” We laughed.

I also have a family that chooses to laugh over crying. Sometimes we do both. Best to you and your nan.

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triggerismydawg t1_iuih90u wrote

Mine is the same way.

When my grandma was dying (at home on hospice) and hadn’t been lucid for days my aunt and I were trying to roll her over. We were *awful at it and couldn’t stop laugh-crying. My aunt said “I bet if you’d known this is how things were gonna end up you wouldn’t have grounded me so much mom!” And my grandma started laughing 😂

We never heard her speak again but that laugh meant SO much to us.

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usrdef t1_iugwqu9 wrote

Exactly. Finding humor in things is how some people cope. People need to stop being offended by a sentence because the person decided to translate it in their own way.

This is why a lot of stand up comedians usually suffer things like depression. Finding humor in things is a tool that keeps the person from going insane.

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