InconsolableDreams t1_j6h5ijg wrote on January 30, 2023 at 7:47 AM

Reply to comment by dumbass__stupid in eli5 what is the point of therapy? by dumbass__stupid

It's not really going to be the therapist to "sort you out", it's still going to be you who does all the work. Specially the first visits will be extremely uncomfortable because you have to face things you don't want to face. Face the problems that you need to work on, and realize that it really is you who needs to do the work. It can be very frustrating at first. But the therapist is there to give you the tools and keep motivating you, you still have to be the one going back time after time.

There are no miracle solutions or magic pills, it's all just tools so you can help yourself.

Tfresa t1_j6hfys2 wrote on January 30, 2023 at 10:15 AM

I was going to say exactly the same. It's difficult at the beginning to understand what you have to do or what do you have to work in. But you have to trust the therapist and also work on yourself. For me it was good to go there and tell him: "Hi, today I want to work on how to forgive someone because of X" or "I have feel like I'm the worst and want to work on that". You have to see your flaws and tell them what do you want to "change" or do better. They also can help you to see your flaws, but you have to be willing to open and grow.