AnglerJared t1_je8tizg wrote on March 30, 2023 at 6:45 AM

Reply to comment by Hefty-Set5236 in ELI5: What is codependency? Why is it unhealthy? by [deleted]

So, the goal is to love people to the point of saying “I need you,” but not meaning it literally.

LFpawgsnmilfs t1_je8wsly wrote on March 30, 2023 at 7:30 AM

Nah, love a person that brings you happiness and joy but don't let that be the only source of it. Codependent people are fully dependant on a person or persons for happiness, joy and something to do and without them they are "lost".

AnglerJared t1_je909q4 wrote on March 30, 2023 at 8:22 AM

i.e. what I said

[deleted] OP t1_je9eod4 wrote on March 30, 2023 at 11:32 AM

I would say to love people to the point where you want them bad enough to make room for them in your life.

I never found the word "need" a healthy word when it comes to a relationship between two people.