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Abeyita t1_iqvxu4x wrote

Reply to comment by moral_luck in In light of the Try Guys' Cheating Scandal, I asked 50 friends whether they thought physical or emotional cheating was worse [oc] by hannigong4dmi

You shouldn't share frustrations about your partner with friends. It makes your partner look bad and they will see your partner in a bad light even after you resolved things with your partner.

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moral_luck t1_iqvy7qp wrote

That's not how it works. Sharing frustrations is not talking shit.

You've never told a friend how your partner leaves their socks on the floor? How they never fold the laundry? etc?

It's a pretty common and basic thing to do. You've expressed to your partner you'd like them to fold the laundry when it's done, etc. and they continue to fail to do it. Instead of bottling your emotions, you share them before they build up.

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Abeyita t1_iqvyt3i wrote

No, my partner is an adult and can pick up after himself. And even if he did, why would I be telling friends that? It only paints an immature picture of my partner. And of me.

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moral_luck t1_iqvz3wy wrote

You've never expressed frustration about anything about your partner to a friend?

I don't think you're going to give the information I seek from you (which emotions are banned from sharing).

So have a great day. And maintain friendships outside your partner. It's not healthy to be solely attached to one person. And potentially dangerous.

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Abeyita t1_iqvzege wrote

I have very good friends, I've had them for literally decades. But no I do not have ever expressed frustration about my partner. There is no need to. And it isn't right imo.

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moral_luck t1_iqvzqwi wrote

>There is no need to

Tell me you are in short (< 5 years) relationship without telling me you are in short relationship.

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tico_pico t1_iqwolfj wrote

Are you autistic?

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iphigenia22 t1_iqxf8w2 wrote

How on earth do you connect neurodiversity to this person's comment? It seems as if you're using it as a form of insult rather than a sincere enquiry about neurodiversity, and if that is the case it's both ignorant and ugly.

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