I don’t think she got it all in advance either and became exasperated. She began asking questions and taking notes. Then she’d select points in the timeline and focus on them as a goal, like, “in 18 months I’ll be able to go to the pool and swim.” (For a point in time after the reconstructive surgery.) It gave her a sense of when she could return to normal activities, and to plan and look forward to it.
About 18 months later we went to a spa for her birthday and she swam laps for the first time since the diagnosis. It was a wonderful day. She made it through the hurdles and is doing well. I wish the same for you.