Submitted by PhenomeNarc t3_zxdla1 in boston
Odd question, I know. Thing is, the wife has lamented to me that in the few months that we've been here, we have yet to go out with any new friends. Yes, everything is more expensive, so several options are pretty much off the table. Though I still wonder if there is a place where some 30-somethings can go to hang out with people in areas that are moderately welcoming.
Thanks, Bostonians. Go Bruins.
I mean, /r/bostonsocialclub can be a good start.
Why don't you tell us a bit about yourselves? What are you into? What brings you to Boston? You'd be surprised, I made a few friends just by replying to posts here.
Hey, nice shoutout.
So we're musicians, the wife being the professional, myself a hobbyist. We're in Boston for her Master's. I'm the typical 9-5'er while she's all over the place. So all in all, the option of once a month visit to some neat places may help.
Yeah, that's a great idea. Thing is that I'm the shut-in while the wife needs social interaction or she shrivels up. I'm just trying to find situations where she feels welcomed and comfortable.
Group classes are also a fun option. Pottery, cooking , ice skating. Best of luck.
... Also you could just sit at the bar and chat up randos. My GF and I have made a few friends shooting the breeze at the local watering hole
You should check out some open mics! I attend one on Monday nights at Porter Belly’s in Brighton
I appreciate the suggestions.
Great idea. Thank you.
Well, you're welcome to message me.
I'm a married 30-something 9-5er, and side-hustle in music. Wife & I love live music, exploring restaurants & bars, standup comedy, travel. I do a bit of light console gaming, she reads a lot of books.
A lot of our regular circle of friends have moved to the suburbs in the last year or two - so we see them less. We like living in the city, so we're not going anywhere.
In addition to the groups/clubs mentioned above, depending on your interests, financial bandwidth and where specifically in Boston/the Boston area you live, could also consider joining a country club.
Also peep meetup. There are a lot of groups based on different sports/hobbies/interests! Most of the people I've met in the city have been through a running group on meetup.
There's a meetup group call "hey siri how do i make friends after college?". YMMV on people you meet
Another option is bumble bff...again YMMV
Muse paint bar in Assembly Row where you can paint, drink and maybe chat with other people
She isn't making friends through school? That seems like the prime environment for making connections with people with similar interests, lack of established social circles, etc.
God help you. The older you get the harder it is to meet people in this city. Most people who go out to bars or music events just want to stick with their own crew and never like it when randos cut into their conversation. You mentioned you were musicians - try craigslist to see if there’s people who want to jam out with you. Be warned that there is a major practice space shortage in the city going on with one of the biggest facilities evicting everyone end of January - if you can stick to low volume/acoustic stuff you can do without a drummer you may have more successes
A very similar situation to OP in terms of moving to Boston. I'm traveling atm but if you guys do something in late January I'd totally be up for hanging out!
Hi, a recent mid 30s transplant to Boston here. Not a musician but would like to explore the local live music scene. Hmu if you guys end up doing something!
I joined a book club through NextDoor and have become close friends with the women in it. That might be an option for her.
Want to play hacky sack?
it's easier when you're in your 20es and single, otherwise, you'd have to join some activities based on your hobbies and show up every time or try to become a regular at a bar
takes12KNOW t1_j1zmwvs wrote
Join a club for your favorite hobby. Coed sports is my go-to