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HouseOfBamboo2 t1_j1zu1l3 wrote

Two months isn’t very long, especially if they were close. I would check in with her to see if she really is up for this, otherwise it may just be an expensive night and could make her feel worse because she isn’t ready for joy just yet

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Iluvroastbeefvagina OP t1_j20eszt wrote

I understand and yes I agree two months isn’t long. I talked to her about it and she said she’d like that. I have also talked to her friends and therapist as well as her siblings and we’ve all agreed that taking her out is a classic way of getting her reved up again. I know she misses going out and having an excuse to doll herself up. I don’t expect anything out of it except to see her brighten up a little and that things will be ok. That I got her and that I’m with her. Thank you for advice though but I’m trying. I’m proposing to her in a few months (March, the month we met). I thought of doing it sooner but then everything happened plus I find proposals during the holidays a bit cheesy NGL. I wanted her to properly mourn her mom not have her memory distracted by my own things. I did tell her mom I would propose to her before she passed and she was very happy about it and gave me her blessing. She said I was right to not propose to her sooner as honestly her mom’s cancer remission took us by surprise. Before she passed she gave me advice on how to work with my girlfriend and we agreed taking her out is one of the things that works.

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TheLadyButtPimple t1_j22xrwq wrote

Why did you talk to her therapist?

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Iluvroastbeefvagina OP t1_j233l08 wrote

I wanted to understand how I could help her further. It’s been a tough year for both of us and I wanted to know whether I had been loving her how she needs. Don’t worry I got told that I wasn’t breaching anything nor was I looking to be told anything other than offering any way I could help her process. Her mom’s cancer remission hit us out of the blue and next thing we knew she was gone in the blink of an eye. Plus my moving here for a lucrative job offer and her deciding to come with me and test it out with me is no small sacrifice. She’s finding it tough to find friends and community here as she’s very social on top of it. I just want her to be comfortable and well and help her anyway I could. I want her to know I have her back.

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Wtf_is_this1234 t1_j23bis0 wrote

It could have been a group session. The wife may have given consent. It's really none of your business.

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