Harp & Bard in Savin Hill has a large LGBT presence on weekends

Go alone wherever you want. Part of that is a self limitation based on comfort. Almost any bar is just fine to go alone regardless of audience. Don’t let places intimidate you or make you feel weird going alone.

Mainly just added that part so I wouldn’t get recommended any clubs. Clubs are fun but I don’t wanna go alone

My favorite queer-owned place to grab a drink is Ritcey East in Watertown. Awesome food, fun drinks

Not a club atmosphere, but Trina’s Starlite and BackBar come to mind. Rock up to a bar seat, folks who work at both are rad.

Definitely safe spaces where the staff and management have your back.

That’s pretty tone-deaf to tell a woman.

I’m a woman who goes to bars alone saying it but I think it’s much worse to tell or imply women should be afraid and not participate in society to the degree a man or someone else would. In the grand context of things, Boston is incredibly safe and I standby my comment. It does people no good to make them think they shouldn’t or can’t go to spaces alone. What if they have no one to go with? Are they not supposed to participate in life? They pay taxes and presumably live, work, or go to school here. They are entitled to participate in society to the degree they would like. She is asking about going to bars alone, so she should if she wants to.

I don’t think acknowledging the reality that we live in is implying that we should not participate. But it is disingenuous to say that we are letting fear limit us as though it is an unreasonable fear. Describing the very real, if small, fear of sexual assault or worse as “comfort” is tone-deaf.

I would say you are projecting your fears onto her, at least as of the time I posted my comment and based on the reply to me. Even if it did, it doesn’t change my response because she is asking about going to bars alone. It is what it is. To go to bars alone, someone has to be willing to actually go to them alone. Let them write their story. We don’t need to do it for them. We also don’t need to assume they aren’t capable or are afraid of those things as a main factor. Boston is very safe and literally every activity in life has some statistical probability of something happening. The likelihood of those things happening are still very low on any given day. It’s up to them to set parameters for how they do activities and what their limits and concerns are.

Also State Park in Kendall and Last Drop in Brighton.