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Traditional_Lead_97 t1_j29ghlm wrote

Why does this sub hate romance? Every time it's mentioned here it's to insult it .

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freeeeels t1_j29th41 wrote

I haven't read the book OP is talking about but "I'm in a stressful situation, I'm running at peak anxiety every waking moment - a bit of sex sounds like a welcome distraction" sounds like reasonable human behaviour?

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candlehand t1_j2a3g26 wrote

Different strokes (huehuehue) for different folks.

If I or my wife just learned a family member was missing we would not be in a sexy mood, so the example given seems pretty alien to me.

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Traditional_Lead_97 t1_j29x81l wrote

I'm not talking about this specific book I'm talking about how romance is talked about in this sub which is almost always negative.

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yazzy1233 t1_j2a837c wrote

It is. Some people can't have sex in a stressful situation while others use sex as a way to de-stress.

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lapsangsouchogn t1_j2aow93 wrote

I read one years ago where this couple was imprisoned for several hours, and had one chance to escape - when the guards go on that long awaited 10 minute break. That's when the author queued up a 6 page sex scene instead of the escape. So awful I threw the book away.

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mollycoddles t1_j2a313g wrote

God forbid characters blow off some steam together!

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nimitzhunter t1_j2a84tg wrote

For me because how predictable it is. If one of the characters is described as a sexy beast, then there will definitely be a sex scene.

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Traditional_Lead_97 t1_j2aj0ab wrote

Yeah , but maybe the unpredictable aspects will be when it comes to the plot not the smut itself. If you know what i mean . Plus , there are tons of smut free romances , it doesn't mean that the ones that have it are unclassy or badly written. It just means that the author included it because that's what they like to write and read , personally i like it , it's a nice addition to a good story , if you're not in the feels it looks awkward but when you're in the right mindset it's incredible, enhances the experience more.

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Alaira314 t1_j2asd2i wrote

People who are okay with romance(or sex scenes - they're different concepts, and this thread is kind of conflating them together when it shouldn't!) never come on the internet to say how much they're okay. You only hear from the people who've got beef. It's just like how people who've had bad customer service experiences are much more likely to submit an evaluation than those who had amazing service.

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Traditional_Lead_97 t1_j2ayuf5 wrote

That's not true at all , a lot of people especially on bookstagram and booktok, and obviously the romance book sub express how much they love this genre.

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Alaira314 t1_j2b1uqk wrote

I wasn't talking about the genre. In the context of my comment and this entire post, it's referring to romantic content outside of the romance genre.

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ginnygrakie OP t1_j2b8djg wrote

I’m not a prude, and I don’t dislike romance. What I dislike is poorly written romantic or sexual subplots in stories where they don’t make sense with the plot, the emotions of the situation, or what the characterisation has been like so far. That particular issues seems to crop up a lot in mysteries and thrillers.

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Traditional_Lead_97 t1_j2dadp6 wrote

Sure , no problem, just that it struck me as odd how repetitive this kind of opinion is , i'm sure there a lot of poorly written non fiction yet i don't see the amount of hostility towards it as much as romance. Anyway, i'm aware you can dislike an entire genre if you can , i just expressed what i noticed.

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snoopy369 t1_j2bbnsy wrote

Young male heavy demographic of Reddit most likely. Not that every young male dislikes romance, but they’re definitely more likely to.

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Traditional_Lead_97 t1_j2da3fg wrote

It's still odd , in the romance sub reddit, even when most of us don't like non fiction or other genres, we never insult them or even bring them up . A book subreddit is supposed to be accepting of all genres , including romance since it's one of the oldest genres, older than sci-fi .

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snoopy369 t1_j2du89f wrote

r/books is in the default subreddit list for new Redditors, though, so way more people read it than just book lovers.

To be clear, I’m not defending them, it’s shitty to act like that. I’m just explaining why.

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Traditional_Lead_97 t1_j2dwmz1 wrote

Yeah i know , you may be right, i'd like to think that rather than to believe other readers are elitists and consider romance to not be a worthy genre , or a silly genre .

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George_Askeladd t1_j2f7jju wrote

I actually love it but only if it's done well. I don't need predictable and forced romance

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WhenRobLoweRobsLowes t1_j29r2j2 wrote

Yeah, the only time I see people being up sex in books is to knock it and imply the authors are perverts. Bunch of damn prudes.

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DiscoEthereum t1_j29xv2n wrote

I think it's because it seems to be most often done very poorly. Whether it just doesn't make sense for the characters, the writing is bad, or it feels shoe-horned into the book like it was a requirement from the publisher and they're checking a box.

Some people are surely prudes as well, but at least in my experience it's just that it usually takes away from the overall story instead of adding to it.

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candlehand t1_j2a4f4g wrote

It's just done poorly very often and shoehorned into situations it doesn't belong.

There may be some prudish people but I'm not offended if I read an out of place sex scene, I'm just a little bored.

We live in a world with the internet and anything sexy directly at your fingertips. Incorporating a sex scene just because has lost it's relevance and steaminess.

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mollycoddles t1_j2a3a1k wrote

Maybe there's an overrepresentation of asexual people in this sub?

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