sweetspringchild t1_j1mk3x0 wrote on December 25, 2022 at 5:07 PM

Reply to comment by tomandshell in I fell in love and my interests in books changed drastically. by kingkontroverseP0si

There was research that showed people like confirmation that they're right, even if that confirmation comes in the form of songs. People who were already sad preferred sad song, angry ones agressive songs, in-love ones romantic songs etc.

I bet it's the same with books.

ZootZootTesla t1_j1mlbru wrote on December 25, 2022 at 5:17 PM

Self affirmation and self labelling theory.

If you believe to be sad you are attracted to sadness.

If you believe to be in love you are attracted to material around love.

fapping_giraffe t1_j1mprzu wrote on December 25, 2022 at 5:52 PM

Self affirmation is more about choosing and willing your life forward in every instant no matter how bad or good it is. It's about not giving into nihilism or despair and having courage to embrace all difficulty in the same way you do the positive things in life.

It's not about giving in or becoming the things you're attracted to

ZootZootTesla t1_j1nt4ox wrote on December 25, 2022 at 11:05 PM

Beautifully said, I'd think you'd agree that self affirmation will drive oneself in a direction of their choosing whether its real or not. As I understand it its about not only neutralisation of one's actions but the endorsement of them in the opinion it will improve there life truly or in a delusional manner.

Regardless I hope you've had a merry Christmas and have a happy new year.

debsim t1_j1nv97v wrote on December 25, 2022 at 11:23 PM

What if i love romantic songs but never really been in love? Maybe i’m in the love with the idea of romance?

sweetspringchild t1_j1pog4b wrote on December 26, 2022 at 11:31 AM

It's the general feeling that matches, I don't think neither music nor human emotions can neatly be packed into boxes.

Nobody is ever feeling just in love.

Or a romantic song could just sound optimistic and hopeful to you and you're optimistic and hopeful in that moment.

And of course what sounds romantic to one person might not to other.

It's not clear-cut, it's just a general trend they noticed.

But also you could have read a romantic book, and be in such mood even though it might not have happened to you personally.