Not sure if homoeroticism is the right word, I'm thinking of it more in the context of the Marilyn Frye quote, but I remember thinking that whenever Winston described O'Brien he had more words of admiration and care for him then when he described Julia,throught the entire book it's almost as if he feels he has more of a connection to him then her, he even addresses this when he's being tortured by O'Brien claiming he felt understood by him and that people care more about being understood then being loved.
"All or almost all of that which pertains to love, most straight men reserve exclusively for other men. The people whom they admire, respect, adore, revere, honor, whom they imitate, idolize, and form profound attachments to, whom they are willing to teach and from whom they are willing to learn, and whose respect, admiration, recognition, honor, reverence and love they desire… those are, overwhelmingly, other men. In their relations with women, what passes for respect is kindness, generosity or paternalism; what passes for honor is removal to the pedestal. From women they want devotion, service and sex.
Heterosexual male culture is homoerotic; it is man-loving" Marilyn Frye, The Politics of Reality: Essays in Feminist Theory
Davidstarr86 t1_j2656ay wrote
A man admiring, caring about, appreciating, loving, etc. another man is not homosexual or homoerotic.