hayzulhay OP t1_is7mpo3 wrote on October 13, 2022 at 9:54 PM

Reply to comment by thegoatfrogs in The hidden transphobia in "The Art of Being Normal" by hayzulhay

Of course, you can't tell someone to perceive you in a certain way, and I'm not saying that it is bad to address that Leo still sees Kate as a boy, but addressing trans people in the correct way is basic respect, and trans people understand that

thegoatfrogs t1_is8vt8o wrote on October 14, 2022 at 3:38 AM

That's the thing I tried to point out though. Just because you perceive something to be the correct way does not mean other people agree with you.

And you've replied twice to me now as if trans people are a single uniform group of people who all agree and that's never been correct either.

I've had trans friends who were dead certain that they've always been one gender in another gender's body. Who feel being deadnamed or misgendered is hurtful. Who can't wait to transition fully. Who only want to date heterosexual partners and so on.

I've had trans friends who fully embraced the fact they are intersex with physically demonstrable traits from both genders. They made a choice to be one or the other but they do not at all begrudge other people the fact that they're androgynous enough that people might see it differently.

I've had trans friends who happily proclaim they're chicks with dicks that'll choose which way they lean based on how they're feeling that weekend. They'll laugh at people who misgender them and don't attach any value to it at all.

Don't speak for everyone because you'll always be wrong.