I read the OP and I think you're reading into one phrase that she said A LOT. You can disagree on the idea of "passive" transphobia; I don't care about your feelings on that. Of course, someone being purposefully malicious IS harmful, but that's not what we're talking about. It's pretty clear throughout the OP that she is not stating that the author is an outright, unabashed transphobe purposefully sneaking in transphobia. ("intentional or not", "some flawed thinking" and then multiple times saying outright that she doesn't think the author is) Hence why I bring up societal conditioning which is what the other poster and the OP are clearly talking about.