I mean, ACOTAR and Twilight are wish fulfillment books. They’re completely unserious stories so of course they’re not going to portray war with realism or kill off major characters or even likable side characters. They exist to entertain, not to challenge.

Not to say that all serious stories include death or that all stories that include death are serious, but if you’re looking for realism, YA fantasy romance is probably not the place to look for it lmao