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logpooler t1_j7eoxhi wrote

I don't understand why "I'm not like other girls" is criticized so much. It is a real thought that plagues many people. A writer like Jane Austen who was a genius at nuanced observations won't be dishonest with her writing.

And this is the one thing I feel amiss among genre romance readers. They seem to restrict the creativity of writers too much with idiotic shackles.

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Foxyglove8 t1_j7l2mdb wrote

Yes exactly, particularly when it is being spoken about in a specific context where an observation has been made that other women in that situation behave differently. It doesn't mean that there are no other women like this, just that in a particular context a woman can stand out as different or unique. I often wonder why can't women notice that they stand out in a certain situation? It's just an observation. Likewise I think Elizabeth is merely expressing a thought from observing other women around Darcy and perhaps other men of a similar ilk at the time.

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mikarala t1_j7g4ma9 wrote

> I don't understand why "I'm not like other girls" is criticized so much

Have you heard of the term "female misogynist"? This is why it's criticized. Basically, women are conditioned to believe that we're in competition with each other over male approval, and the "I'm not like other girls" thought process serves to undermine and belittle other women's interests and accomplishments.

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logpooler t1_j7g7qmo wrote

Males have even more of an "I'm not like other guys" thought stream. They are as competitive trying to garner female approval or mate. It's a pretty natural evolutionary instinct while mating. Not conditioned at all. And seen in many other species.

It's just that nowadays it is a taboo for women to criticize other women or belittle them. An agenda driven censoring of your own feelings. It's natural for women to belittle each other. Its just social dynamics. Men tear each other to shreds without any social labelling.

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