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HildaMarin t1_j92hctq wrote

I think kids telling an adult that the adult is deluded and has been conned by an obvious fraud and charlatan and abusive manipulator is something that does happen. The reaction, as in these books, is nearly always to deny the child's claims as wrong, fanciful, or spiteful, and to defend the charlatan, and to punish the child.

Talk to any survivor of childhood abuse and they will tell you all the times they reached out to those they trusted that they were punched down. One of the worst situations is telling one's mother they are being abused by their stepfather and the mother takes it as a personal accusation against herself and punishes the child for lying about the mother's heroin addicted or otherwise questionable boyfriend who provides the needy mother with affirmations in return for pedophilic access, a trade.

This capitalistic dynamic I find to be the aspect of these books that is the most realistic detail.

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AggravatingStudy2084 OP t1_j92wcdf wrote

You have an excellent point, Hilda — did you see my reply about the Church abuse cases?

Also, I get the feeling that your example is autobiographical — in which case, I am very sorry and hope that you are finding peace. (hugs)

[To whoever downvoted this comment: I sincerely apologize for trying to be kind to someone who might have been hurting. Please get a life.]

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HildaMarin t1_j94iu16 wrote

Hi, thanks, I did not downvote you FWIW. Anecdote I told matches several friends over my life who disclosed to me step-parent, foster-parent, and mom's-latest-boyfriend you-are-to-call-uncle sexual abuse.

My abuse was of a different nature which I do not really like to get in to. In particular to all the people who keep telling me therapy, spent a lot of money and wasted incredible amounts of time on that and it keeps coming down to that I have to "forgive" them. Yeah, no. I want reform of laws so abusers can legally kill their perps. That's what I want. Legal. Not illegal. And the people who say this means I need more therapy can bleep right off with that abuse. We need legal reform so victims can legally kill their perps. Like in Saudi Arabia where victims have the option to behead those who have wronged them. But with far more judicial review and for real crimes, not that Saudi BS.

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Rilenaveen t1_j92td67 wrote

I don’t think op is arguing that adults ignoring children is something that doesn’t happen. It’s that it KEEPS happening and the adults continue to ignore the children. It’s the opposite of the boy who cried wolf.

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