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dopkick t1_iw4gk1y wrote

She tells you she's taking a job overseas that starts in a few months. And wants to get married so she can take you with. It's the first date BTW.

You do see it through to the end because of the morbid curiosity. And ask a lot of questions.

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[deleted] t1_iw4nr17 wrote

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dopkick t1_iw4nyd0 wrote

Been there. 10/10 or 0/10 depending on your opinion of trainwrecks.

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Smokedsoba t1_iw4zlnv wrote

How was living in the other country? Also how was the divorce?

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dopkick t1_iw53ma2 wrote

I asked enough questions on our one and only date to be able to answer those questions!

It was somewhere in Africa and generally the workers hung out together a lot. They would make it a point to check out as much as possible. It was safer to do things in a big group as well. So it sounded exciting from that perspective.

Divorce rates are high because the +1 usually finds miscellaneous admin jobs, at best. The novelty of being somewhere exciting wears off quick when you find yourself being a secretary after formally working as a senior engineer. And that often breeds resentment. The employed spouse also gets to travel a fair bit (for work) which means the +1 gets to fly solo a fair bit but never fully fits in.

People who don't get married before heading over often get married while over there. Apparently having similar jobs makes things... easier. But they get divorced too because once the job comes to an end people can find out they don't actually have too much in common.

I will give her credit, she held up to my interrogation quite well. She also probably thought I was interested, so there is that.

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