Oh god. There's a lot to tackle here. As a human who's currently in a serious relationship a vampire and planning to propose this week...

You should have told her first. This is one of the first things Jake (M21) told me. (Jake's mother was a human who got married in 1957. She had Jake in 2000. That's why he's so young.) He said that if I didn't want to marry him, that was okay, and everything could be chill and we could be a fling until I broke up with him and/or died.

I (F20) am from a really orthodox Hindu family. I, obviously, really want to get married because of my tradition. However, this also allows me to sympathize with him. I understand his tradition as well. We're planning on doing a Hindu wedding and, later, a Vamp wedding.

Jake's Vamp lineage traces all the way back to Hungary and Oslo, actually. After that, we can't find anything more, and DNA tests just give us a barrage of random information that isn't very helpful. (Yes, I know I'm 100% Malayali. They don't know where he's from at all, though, so it doesn't work for us.) It's not very helpful.

Luckily for me, the whole "garlic" thing is something we have in common, because Orthodox Hindu families don't eat garlic. Unfortunately, I love garlic. (I eat it in secret. I discovered it in college.) When Jake first tasted garlic -- before I knew he was Vamp -- he loved it. And then, he broke out into hives, and I used my epi on him. (It worked!)

But, enough about me, let's talk about you.

You should have told your (hopefully) future bride about that at first. Have you considered a "commitment ceremony"? It's something people do when they can't get married for legal reasons. Or, perhaps, you could have a wedding in her faith and then in yours. Jake's cousin Silas (M172) and his wife Ruth (F52) had a Jewish wedding and then, when she was 37, she got bit and is now stuck as a 37-year-old.

That's really all I can say. I think that I can't say much more. I am hesitant to label someone from a Vamp background that I don't know at all about as a jerk. But, because you didn't know better (and because she's being reasonable), NAH.