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Crystal1501 OP t1_iy8frmk wrote

Reply to comment by cat_astr0naut in [WP] As a vampire, I follow traditions. My fiancé is human and just found out that human brides/grooms are to be bit to become a vampire themselves. She absolutely refuses to let that happen, and says the wedding is off unless I refuse to bite her. I feel like she's disrespecting tradition. AITA? by Crystal1501

[Author's Note: I'd have happily played along with this as if I WERE Jaques, but I already did an 'edit' where I worked things out with my spouse, so...]

Really? One of my own did that? Jaques... if I knew who he was, I'd so go over and beat him up on your behalf! That sounds so abusive! I'm so sorry you went through that!

As I said in my edit, I had talked it out with my fiancé, I'm not a manipulative bastard. I truly and genuinely love her. I want what's best for her, and we'll do what we can to make the marriage work.

What really disgusts me is how tradition was used to keep you 'in line'. That's genuinely messed up. The reason I brought up tradition at all is, in my family, tradition is sacred, but I'd NEVER use it to CONTROL someone. I hope you find someone better, and please don't hate all our kind over one moronic psychopath.

Wish you luck!

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cat_astr0naut t1_iy8pnt8 wrote

[No worries! This was a fun prompt, I really liked it.]

Sorry about this, I really thought it was Jaques. It seems problems with the biting tradition in Vampire-Human marriage are more common than I thought.

In my opinion, and while I understand that tradition is important to you and your family, changing your bride ro fit in with your family? Shouldn't you be doing it because you want to spend eternity together?

Times are changing, and it's a little degrading that a vampire would automatically expect that the human bride be complicent to be turned to fit in with the expectations. The human is to give up their last name, their identity, their way of life, their mortality, their reflection on the mirror.

In my case, instead of being to fit in, being bitten was a way to "prove my love" to Jaques, but the point stands. The bite should be a mutual decision, or not at all, and it's not an easy decision.

You seem like a nicer guy than he was, so a piece of advice. Talk with your bride, have honest and open conversations about the pro and cons of a transformation, and listen to what she says. A marriage is a partnership, after all.

Best of luck!

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Crystal1501 OP t1_iy8rxnf wrote

We plan to re-visit this before the wedding, she decided to try out the vampire lifestyle for now. Even if she decides not to turn, I'll still want her. My family would be upset, but screw em! I love her!

But yeah, it was just miscommunication and misunderstandings, I plan to keep the relationship more open going forward.

As for you, I hope you find someone who loves you for who you are, not WHAT you are!

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