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dupattaluella t1_j9kz3vk wrote

Reply to comment by LetsGoHome in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36

I can understand there are some people who look down on trans people, but I don't understand why a hairstylist even needs to know your gender identity. I don't discuss my gender identity with my stylist and she's never asked. I tell her how I want my hair to look. I've had many hairstyles, even super short, throughout my life and never once discussed my gender. This is what I don't get.

No one seems to be able to explain this. It keeps going back to people being transphobic over hairstyles when hairstyles come in all varieties no matter the gender. And people keep talking about presenting feminine or masculine when all genders have a variety of hairstyles and they crossover between genders. To me, this is akin to thinking only females can have long hair and only males can have short hair. If all you see is gender identity when you look at someone's hairstyle, I think that's a problem.

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LetsGoHome t1_j9l1tiw wrote

Yes, you don't need to discuss your gender identity with your hair stylist. This is because you are cisgender - your gender presentation matches your identity. They do not have this luxury.

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Wendon t1_j9l3ydh wrote

Don't engage, this person is deliberately trolling. They got me too.

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LetsGoHome t1_j9l62kk wrote

At least someone else reading can have a valuable takeaway.

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Wendon t1_j9l6mub wrote

I just feel bad OP's post got hijacked by this asshole but yeah, hopefully it is a productive read for anyone approaching in good faith.

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dupattaluella t1_j9l2i3s wrote

Why do you assume I'm cisgender? That's quite rude and presumptive of you. Are you someone who assumes gender based on hairstyle too?

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LetsGoHome t1_j9l5z1v wrote

Japan is divided into 47 prefectures (都道府県, todōfuken, [todoːɸɯ̥ꜜkeɴ]), which rank immediately below the national government and form the country's first level of jurisdiction and administrative division. They include 43 prefectures proper (県, ken), two urban prefectures (府, fu: Osaka and Kyoto), one "circuit" or "territory" (道, dō: Hokkai-dō) and one metropolis (都, to: Tokyo). In 1868, the Meiji Fuhanken sanchisei administration created the first prefectures (urban fu and rural ken) to replace the urban and rural administrators (bugyō, daikan, etc.) in the parts of the country previously controlled directly by the shogunate and a few territories of rebels/shogunate loyalists who had not submitted to the new government such as Aizu/Wakamatsu. In 1871, all remaining feudal domains (han) were also transformed into prefectures, so that prefectures subdivided the whole country. In several waves of territorial consolidation, today's 47 prefectures were formed by the turn of the century. In many instances, these are contiguous with the ancient ritsuryō provinces of Japan.[1]

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dupattaluella t1_j9l9ql8 wrote

I don't understand how this explains why you assume I'm cisgendered.

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LetsGoHome t1_j9laelj wrote

"I don't even understand why you have to tell a hairstylist if you're trans, lesbian, gay, nonbinary, straight, etc"

This sentence tells me. Hope that helps! Xoxo

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dupattaluella t1_j9lbtmd wrote

Why are you assuming no one but cisgendered people think you shouldn't have to state your gender identity to get a haircut? That's very small minded and makes it seem like you think everyone but cisgendered people are hyperfocused on how someone identifies when it comes to getting a haircut.

This also goes back to your thinking that someone needs a "feminine" haircut to be seen as feminine. Do you see men with your perceived feminine haircuts to be feminine? Do you assume those men identify as women?

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