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dupattaluella t1_j9kwjdd wrote

Reply to comment by Wendon in Trans Girl looking for a hairstylist who is knowledgeable about working with Trans people by Jade_of_the_Sea36

I'm trying to understand this but all I'm getting is "hair is gendered" when it's not. Any stylist who cares how someone wants to cut their hair and will judge a person for it isn't a good person. Doesn't matter what the customer's gender is.

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Wendon t1_j9kx8vn wrote

You are not communicating like someone who wants to understand, you are communicating like someone who wants to fight about something. If you are being genuine you should maybe think about why you are being so combative about it. If I showed up to a salon and asked my stylist to help me look more feminine and they responded like you, "what do you mean feminine, you don't think women can have short or buzzed hair" I would leave and go to a different stylist. I cannot believe you are acting in good faith.

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dupattaluella t1_j9kyer7 wrote

What is feminine hair though? This is what I'm trying to get across. I see people who look masculine and people who look feminine with long hair, short hair, buzzed hair, bald, curly hair, straight hair, wavy hair, etc. Trying to present masculine or feminine is literally different to everyone.

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Wendon t1_j9kykr8 wrote

You know very well what constitutes feminine hair you're just starting a fight.

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dupattaluella t1_j9kzv2a wrote

No. I don't. If I said only women have long hair, isn't that kind of sexist? If I said only men have short hair, isn't that also kind of sexist. This idea that hair is gendered is a sexist idea to me. Anyone can have any hairstyle and if someone sees gender based on hair, they're the one with the problem.

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LetsGoHome t1_j9l4qjl wrote

So you're gonna walk up to a men's barbershop and ask for a wolf cut?

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dupattaluella t1_j9l9ku9 wrote

No, I don't want a wolf cut. But, if I did, I'd go to my hairstylist and ask if she knows how to do that style since I already trust her with my hair. If not, I'd ask her for recommendations before searching on my own.

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