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thejanuaryfallen t1_jamaqf1 wrote

Im originally from Chicago. Moved here 13 years ago. The real friends that I have been able to make out here are all from out of state who also have moved here. Lots of folks from the midwest. Easy to make friends.

Natives are a bit harder to make genuine connections with. But not impossible. Just takes more effort. I just think the older you get and the more divided we get with technology, its harder to make real friends anywhere.

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ComplexOk5954 OP t1_jambn2k wrote

That’s a good point, technology really changed the game..I always thought about moving to WA for a bit but the thought of not knowing anyone and the potential difficulty to make new friends and relationships scare me off

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ComplexOk5954 OP t1_jamd1ln wrote

Any pointers for a semi introvert on how to make friends in a new state?

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ruckus666 t1_jamey46 wrote

How have you made friends in your current state?

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ComplexOk5954 OP t1_jan2avj wrote

My current friends i made during school so it was a bit easier. Now that i am working FT it seems harder to meet people and be friends with them

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Nixx_Mazda t1_jan4t25 wrote

Welcome to adulting. Sucks sometimes, eh?

As to your original question, I'll let you know when it happens. I think it's mainly luck. Right place at the right time, and get your foot in the door somehow.

I met some people online. It started with group beers, progressed to hanging out together, house/cat sitting, good friends...but things change eventually. So back to the search...or not.

There might be a million people in the area that I'd consider hanging out with, but we're all too busy living our own lives to make serious time for someone new.

/shrug

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Ponsugator t1_janl3xr wrote

I think it’s easier with a hobby, try joining A local group with something you’re interested in. Even that can be hard. I’ve been here almost two years and have one or two friends but it’s even hard to get together

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junebuggery t1_jamtjdo wrote

This has been my experience too. Been here about a year and a half now. I feel like I'm finally making headway on making friends, and most of them are other transplants. Not because I'm actively seeking out other transplants...it just kinda happened that way.

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ComplexOk5954 OP t1_jan3mwi wrote

How did you meet them?

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junebuggery t1_jan5762 wrote

Basically online friend dating. Joined the Facebook group for my town and responded to a post someone else made looking to make friends. They seemed cool, so we met up at a local brewery and hit it off pretty well.

From there, that person has introduced me to their friend group.

I'm also starting a class tonight for a hobby I've been wanting to try, and I'm hopeful I'll meet some more people through that.

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ballastboy1 t1_jao4x6w wrote

Same. Transplants have been the only people willing to put in any effort for social interactions or consistent friendships.

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