> But we could do better. That starts with actually taking care of the people who are expected to do the dirty, dangerous work. I loved my fire position, but the pay just wasn't worth the risk, so I took a non fire position.

To be clear, in case it wasn't, we are in agreement here.

Additionally, I was definitely trying to open a dialogue rather than shut you down.

>So yeah, it rubs me the wrong way when people say things like "Pay the meme makers more!" but aren't also saying, "Do more to retain your fire staff before the whole system topples!"

I can definitely understand this frustration. That said, when people say things like "the Wendy's social media manager needs a pay raise", I think most are just saying it in jest, to exemplify how much they enjoyed something. It's certainly how I would typically engage with those sorts of statements.

It's important to remember everyone has a limit to their cognitive load - caring and being upset about everything wrong is a burden too much for any one person to carry. While many would agree with and support your feelings around DNR for example, they have 5 million other things on their mind, and so realistically, most people aren't going to dedicate a portion of their limited bucket to care about that issue constantly, even if they agree with and support you when its specifically brought up.

If I ever see some way I can directly impact this via my ballot, I will definitely remember this conversation, so its good of you to bring it up. Just something to consider is, it can sometimes be helpful for people with less patience to try and focus on the message you care about. Your original post, sans the dig at the social media managers pay, would have shared your feelings just as well without having a seeming veneer of "going at" those other people, even if it wasn't your intent.

Easier said then done when passionate - trust me I get it. Just something that might help make your message be one that sticks better with people when it comes up in conversation. People will always remember more how you made them feel than what you said. And if people feel personally attacked or slighted, they are less likely to remember your actual message.

Thanks for your efforts.