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SnowinMiami t1_ixpor0a wrote

Reply to comment by agorarocks-your-face in This long-term care home radically changed the way it operates. Residents say it's working. by thousandtrees

I totally agree. I’m moving my mom into assisted living today. She has no long term care and has Alzheimer’s. She refused to go earlier but we can’t afford to pay for 24/7 caregivers and she refused to move into our homes (my sisters or myself) when she could and now it’s impossible because she can’t be left alone.

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agorarocks-your-face t1_ixpyssw wrote

I’m so sorry. Alzheimer’s is an awful disease. I hope you know that mom may not remember your name. However as long as you are a decently regular occurrence in her life she will know you and light up when she sees you. The only time I’ve ever seen people not recognize loved ones is if they visit one time a year for maybe 30 minutes. I suspect it’s because we age over time and change looks. But mom/dad have an image in their head of this person from 20 years ago. So sometimes it doesn’t line up.

It can be heart breaking to realize parents don’t know your name. It’s like when we accidentally call a kid by the dogs name. Or switch names up in the heat of a moment. Alzheimer’s/ dementia is similar. But she will know exactly who you are. As caregivers, we see it all the time.

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