>it just does not seem like we should be building roads and i infrastructure in other countries like that. We are not the daddy of the planet, and we need to let those countries get themselves together.

It's not about being a daddy, it's about building relationships. Ghana needs capital for development, we need friends in Africa. It's not about paternalism, it's about helping each other achieve goals.

>we're e not "buying" loyalty, we're only renting it for the present.

This process is also known as "diplomacy." It's how all international relationships work and how they have always worked.