its_never2_late t1_j7supsv wrote on February 9, 2023 at 3:51 AM

Reply to comment by Mundane-Ad-3142 in Lost Dog Finds Her Way to Former Shelter and Rings Doorbell for Help by epsilona01

I think either is fine

Mundane-Ad-3142 t1_j7sy9j7 wrote on February 9, 2023 at 4:20 AM

From my own personal experience, I find "so sorry for your loss" is much more of a downer to read when dealing with a loss of a loved one than the one I suggested (there are a million ways to acknowledge someone's pain with a positive message rather than a flat, depressing one).

Also, as I said to another person who commented on my post, it is merely a suggestion. It's my opinion and I'm trying to share it respectfully.

SirJebus t1_j7u2wa9 wrote on February 9, 2023 at 12:26 PM

>It's my opinion and I'm trying to share it respectfully.

You are failing

rhodopensis t1_j7u6yzz wrote on February 9, 2023 at 1:06 PM

More like you are failing to take it in a positive light.

kellasong t1_j7ul8bz wrote on February 9, 2023 at 2:57 PM

Counterpoint, I would rather someone say a genuine ‘im sorry for your loss’ more than anything else. I actually think if someone responded to me in a positive way like you suggested, it would hurt me. I don’t want to be positive about death, I want to experience the sadness and go through it, not try to walk on the sunny side. That’s not how I prefer to grieve. I would accept the sentiment regardless, but I think you prescribing your preferred sentiments to everyone is incorrect and pretty audacious.