But squatter suggests they’re the ones you don’t want there. They never said thinking about people is wrong.

For me a ‘squatter’ is a friend that hurt me badly so I’ve cut out - the damage was done and I have moved on to the point it doesn’t evoke an emotional response thinking about her but I need to actually stop giving a fuck what she’s up to or rehashing even the good memories. I’m glad she was part of my life and human experience but that time has passed, so should her ability to take up space of my thoughts.