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ScarBug t1_iu3toa8 wrote

Reply to comment by Rednaxella_ in Whoever said its better to have loved and lost than to never have loved, clearly never dated a narcissist by [deleted]

What about being so traumatised you don't get to have another relationship?

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Rednaxella_ t1_iu51f09 wrote

Trauma is for weaklings, their problem.

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Reaver966 t1_iu5q6ly wrote

Trauma isn't for "weaklings", it's how you move past it and it can build character in one's self even though it's a painful experience. Everyone goes through trauma some point in there life.

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Rednaxella_ t1_iu664d8 wrote

No, trauma is the state where the person still didn't get over it. Gettin over trauma is building characters, not tze trauma itself.

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Reaver966 t1_iu678ay wrote

Trauma is the experience of loss; that's why grieving is the process of overcoming that. Going through trauma, then being able to grieve is the process of building character.

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Rednaxella_ t1_iu68ge2 wrote

Trauma isn't just about a loss. Definition says: "a deeply distressing or disturbing experience"

So for example if you are a part of a car accident, where everyone survives just having light injuries, you can get trauma so you won't like traveling in a car. You can get truma for actually stupid things sometimes (like falling off of a bicycle), and that's a sign of being psychically weak.

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Reaver966 t1_iu695b9 wrote

Nonetheless, it's an experience. You still have that loss of feeling safe in a car now, it changes your experience even if it's a "light but traumatic" accident. There are different forms of trauma as well. You speak of physical trauma (damage). But there is emotional abuse, physical abuse, etc that can traumatize you and affect your character. It has repercussions. That's why things like Stockholm Syndrome exist.

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Rednaxella_ t1_iu69uwb wrote

The whole time Iam talking about psychical trauma, I just couldn't think of different examples. And Stockholm syndrome has nothing to do with trauma.

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