Bamres t1_iuhzx7p wrote on October 31, 2022 at 2:10 PM

Reply to comment by Mustang46L in Someone still remembers you as an asshole for something you probably don't even remember doing. by lucius789

I had a similar thing with a friend I was pretty close with, I said something that he didn't like in a group chat we had, not even very insulting from what I remember, but he never told me, or anyone else.

I showed up at a party and he was just not talking to me and wouldn't say why, his GF didn't know anything about it, no one in our chat who I asked could point to anything I said that could possibly cause the reaction.

Eventually he just started talking to me again, never mentioned anything about it. Then he did it again, once again IDK what I did and no one else does either.

I can't say I did nothing wrong because...idk what he was upset about and you can't apologize for some shit that you don't know what you're even doing it for.

But from my perspective, it's not sustainable to be friends with someone who communicates in such a way.

Mustang46L t1_iui0gpn wrote on October 31, 2022 at 2:13 PM

Yeah, I'm super glad this isn't a close friend of mine. But now it's just awkward because my good friend needs to decide any time they have a party or go on a vacation if they should invite both of us or not. I'm still generally cordial to the guy who hates me although he either completely ignores me or is outright ignorant. So unlikely doubt we'll be in the same place at the same time anytime soon.