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Loveroffinerthings OP t1_j3tzg9j wrote

Reply to comment by plaverty9 in Are Rhode Islanders entitled? by Loveroffinerthings

Yes, this is how I feel that people act. Like if I hold the door for you out of kindness, you can say thank you, not smirk at me like I’m the doorman.

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melissafromtherivah t1_j3u67f4 wrote

Doing nice things for people with an expectation is really setting yourself up for disappointment. Just do it for your heart, it helps avoid the disappointment

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_CaesarAugustus_ t1_j414cjd wrote

Also, if you expect things from strangers because you did the bare minimum that might make you the entitled one in a weird way? It shouldn’t be transactional.

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derpbeluga t1_j3u3eut wrote

People do say thank you to me. If someone would ignore me or smirk at me like I'm the doorman I would say something passive aggressive like "You're welcome!".

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Loveroffinerthings OP t1_j3u4xkx wrote

100% I give them the ohhhh you’re welcome. Passive aggressive is a strong suit of mine

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cbri t1_j3uooxl wrote

You know the evil response to that is "I know", right? lol

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_CaesarAugustus_ t1_j415g19 wrote

Sounds like something I’d respond with depending on the tone of the other person.

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_CaesarAugustus_ t1_j413we1 wrote

There’s a really good post that explains this idea quite well. Nice vs Kind.

If you do kind things for people and expect something in return you’re going to have problems. You appear to fall right into the target of this post.

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Loveroffinerthings OP t1_j41ewvm wrote

I’ve read that before, and it is true, but nice vs kind is not the same as entitled. When people expect you to be doing something due to sense of entitlement, it’s beyond nice or kind.

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