Distinct-Ad5751 t1_ix4355k wrote on November 20, 2022 at 4:34 PM

Reply to comment by Sad_Succotash_9347 in Family Court Fathers by [deleted]

What? I was a SAHM for 7 years - I did all the driving to school, Mom’s house, sports, music, friend parties etc. I helped with homework every night and tldr raised them the best I could. His ex wife took our son for 3 brights when my Mum died - she brought all the kids to the funeral.

We’re all good over here, we keep our shit together. Good luck, it sounds like you have some growing up to do.

Sad_Succotash_9347 t1_ix44d3p wrote on November 20, 2022 at 4:43 PM

Comprehension? I've done nothing wrong to have to grow up. She goes to court and wants to fight it because she still can't accept that I've moved on. What does this have to do with anything. Expand on where I should grow up? It's not like she went in and said let's split all time 50/50 and I argued it. Wtf is wrong with the people on reddit? My whole point was everything was smooth because you allowed it to be. If you went in bat's swinging trying to fight for placement then I'm sure it wouldn't have been the outcome it is now. I'm also very much moved on from our past and careless who she is with but sadly jt doesn't work on the flip side. Get me now?

Distinct-Ad5751 t1_ix48nyt wrote on November 20, 2022 at 5:12 PM

You sound really angry and bitter about all of it. I mean, that’s fair. You can be angry until you’ve moved on but you have to leave your feelings out of it. I don’t think you’ll like my advice but it’s worth a shot - talk to the ex. Acknowledge the problems in the past and tell her you want to leave them behind. Tell her you want a closer relationship with kiddo and want to co parent with her to make sure kiddo gets the best from both of you. Acknowledge there’s not a lot of trust but you’ll work on it and prove that you deserve to be there for the kiddo. Don’t fight about money. Ask how you can help. Show up.