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skippyspk t1_jb2zed4 wrote

A single male at a bar is just about as welcome as a fart in an elevator.

Download a dating app! That way you know you’re welcome. Either that, or hit the bars at 10 or so and shoot your shot… but good luck with that.

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[deleted] OP t1_jb30hxx wrote

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busback t1_jb34gw9 wrote

Don’t listen to that poster, tons of people still meet SO’s in person

You gotta make yourself have a level of confidence and charisma. I know it’s bad for you, social smoking circles outside bars are great places to start conversation. Find a bar with darts or pool tables. Bring a book to a bar and look around

If you don’t drink (or smoke) you can still do all these things with soda waters or N/A beers

For PVD bars:

Ogies, The Eddy, Wild Colonial, Hot Club, The Eddy, Slow Rhode

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Dopey-NipNips t1_jb4epwr wrote

For pvd bears:

The Eagle's back room is a great place to meet people

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skippyspk t1_jb58tfh wrote

Don’t listen to this poster. You’re going to look like an AH or a predator.

That being said, there could be some places where you can meet folks. The thing is, you can’t be there just to meet folks. Do something you like. Brewery tours! Church events! Satanic events! Pottery class! Volunteer!

The advantage of a dating app is everyone’s usually there for the same thing. You’ve cut through the song and dance up front and you don’t have to worry about offending someone by saying that they’re beautiful or how their eyepatch compliments their bangs or whatever.

But you pull that shit at a bar…wildcard.

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busback t1_jb5qf3o wrote

There’s nothing wrong with complimenting someone or being flirty in real life when you’re initiating contact, as long as you respect boundaries and stop instantly if you’re rejected

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vanlife22 t1_jb56gn3 wrote

Exactly. I've been that guy before and I bartend now. Complete wild card

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bluehat9 t1_jb5dcsw wrote

Have you ever gone to a bar? It’s not weird at all for a solo guy to walk up to a bar, sit down, and order a drink

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