Submitted by nat_cat1521 t3_122xubg in Music
I really like metal music and I told my mom that I like metal music. She likes soft rock and soul. Now in any conversation about music she brings up that I like metal music and she gives me this disapproving look. When I first told her she looked kind of mad. What do I do, because it makes me feel guilty for liking it?
If she judges you again for liking metal, just confront her and ask her to stop judging you. I know what you mean with metal, some people are into quicker beats. I dislike country but I'm not gonna judge someone if they listen to country.
Don’t sweat it. My wife is a choral teacher and she frowns upon my taste in metal simply because she can’t fathom how people scream like that without destroying their vocal chords. I try to tell her there’s specific vocal techniques just as with any style of singing that alleviates some of the damage but she just ain’t having it.
So she really won’t tolerate my love of Dying Fetus when she’s around. Just as well - I wait till she leaves for work and blast it and thrash around the living room instead.
Now what kid would feel great if their mom actually approved of their music choice?
Music's how you first assert your individuality. It’s a right of passage for your parents to ask “what’s that noise” *
Are you 12
It’s just music, you shouldn’t feel guilty about it. If she doesn’t like it, that’s fine, she’ll eventually move past it.
I’m sorry she makes you feel bad for liking it. Kind of off topic, but I’m getting into metal, do you have any recommendations? I’d love for you to share your love of the genre with me
If your parents hate the music you listen to, you are doing it right.
Your parents are supposed to hate the music you like. Carry on.
"Your mom threw away your best porno mag!!!"
Mostly System of a Down, Linkin Park, Disturbed. Even Black Sabbath sometimes.
it’s all just squiggles in the air
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Thank you! I’ve Been enjoying Disturbed lately. Again, I’m sorry your mom acts that way. I’m also self conscious about my music so I only wear headphones haha
Black Sabbath is the number one greatest metal band of all time, but Hell, I’d be upset too if my kids were listening to those other 3 bands
😂 I’m only playing, like what you like and never let anyone else make you question that.
Turn the table upside down. Grab a few Al Jolson records and start singing along to them - very loud. Start with “Mammy”.
🎶Everything is lovely When you start to roam; The birds are singin', the day that you stray, But later, when you are further away, Things won't seem so lovely When you're all alone; Here's what you'll keep saying When you're far from home:
Mammy, Mammy, The sun shines east, the sun shines west, I know where the sun shines best Mammy, My little mammy.🎶
Don’t be surprised if she goes into therapy or hits you with a frying pan! Just tell her you’ve seen the error of your ways.
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I feel your pain my mom used to judge me for getting drunk and sleeping in the hedges
Breaking news mom hates her kid’s music
I'll toss in Killswitch Engage, Saul and Sevendust. I started getting more of them on one of my Pandora stations, loving it all
Just ignore her
Not sure if your family is religious but if so check out Fit for a King, Demon Hunter, Phinheas, oh, sleeper, for today, August burns red.... this list could go on. They are all christian metal and it'll be hard for her to give you grief about it being "evil".
Not OP but I've been listening to a lot of Powerwolf recently, they're really good.
Like, I know everyone's supposed to be entitled to an opinion and all, but when someone starts trash talking SoaD or Linkin Park I'm willing to make an exception.
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Ok? So what u gon do
Well, I just wrote a snarky comment, and if you're gonna talk back I might just have to write another one.
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She has no problem with clean vocals in metal, it’s strictly the pig grunts and high screams she can’t deal with. She compliments the skill and musicianship of the instrumentals all the time.
I'll throw in megadeath for some goof thrash, mainly rust in peace. Judas priest, painkiller and breaking the paw are cult classics. I'd also add gojira and hail to the king as a single song. Marty friedmans solo stuff might also be worth a listen. Nine inch nails are pretty well liked, as are bring me the horizon
Did you listen to all of Pisces?
You feel guilt because there's almost an implicit disappointment but just gotta build up the callus to not care about that.
No, because she got onto me to turn it off once she stopped singing and started screaming.
What are you getting at with this song?
I wish more of my kids liked metal, my youngest is a Taylor Swift fan. As far removed from my favorites as can be.
Also my mom hated my music when I was in school as well. Eventually I gave her way more things to be disappointed in other than my taste in music. It'll pass
This is a good example that shows that growling, when done correctly, does not hurt your voice. The fact that she can go back and forth relatively effortlessly would be impossible if it was damaging.
I don't like that type of singing at all, but this song has really grown on me. I came across her through this video of a vocal coach that analyzed what she's doing.
turn that shit up \m/
Mom's aren't supposed to like metal. That's the whole point. Turn it up!
Taylor Swift has good music, her pop stuff is pretty flawless for what it is. The kids know better than us sometimes! :)
She isn't my thing but I wasnt knocking her or anything. My kids can listen to whatever they want as long as there is no hate speech. I just meant that it's nothing close to what I listen to and it's fine with me. OPs mom needs to chill and I'm sure with time she will.
Has she heard that one Danzig song? She might like it!
Try Iron Maiden. Can't go wrong with the classics; Powerslave is a good starter album. The staples: Metallica, Megadeth, early Sepultura, wanna know some early thrash? Suicidal Tendencies' first couple of albums.
Megadeth has to be "peace sells" great album
A heart warming song about mothers
I would fall asleep to Skinny Puppy’s “Too Dark Park” (not metal I know) my mom called it Nightmare Music. I slept just fine.
You can hear the love in his voice, 🎶oooohhhhh Moooootherrrrr!🎶
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who gives a shit what your mum likes. Metal up your ass forever!
Ask her if she's listened to it or if she's just being judgemental?
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Different strokes for different folks.
Your mom doesn't have to like metal, or even the fact you listen to metal. But at the end of the day I wouldn't feel guilty about it. You like what you like, and if metal is what you enjoy, then go enjoy the hell out of it!