Submitted by MysticalTeamMember t3_yhzptb in Maine
MonsterByDay t1_iuhgojp wrote
People here are being too nice.
Honestly, once you hit 13, begging for candy from strangers is a bit off putting. Buy your own candy if you want candy. I buy candy for the little kids - because it’s fun seeing all the neighborhood kids dressed up s whatever they’re in to - not so a 20-something can try to recapture their youth.
Go to a Halloween party, or set up a trunk at a trunk-or-treat. There’s lots of adult activities tonight. Leave the kid stuff to the kids.
sheeponabowl t1_iuhneds wrote
Lol. Whatever grandpa. There’s no rules to it so screw off.
MonsterByDay t1_iuhphu6 wrote
I never said there are "rules" per say, but there's definitely a social convention that it's for kids. The "last year of trick-or-treating" is even a pretty common trope in coming of age halloween stories.
If you - as an adult - want to walk around and beg your neighbors for candy, go nuts. Most of them will probably give you some candy. A lot of them would probably try to find you something even if it wasn't halloween. People are nice like that.
Just don't pretend it's normal, socially acceptable behavior.
sheeponabowl t1_iuhq5rr wrote
You’re the minority in this post. Nobody cares but you and a couple others. You seem to be the problem here. You also have a very weird definition of “beg.” You need to mind your own fuckin business if you’re gonna say people are “begging for candy.” Get your head out of your ass.
MonsterByDay t1_iui56l9 wrote
Well, that's reddit for ya..
Anecdotally, most of the other adults I know who spend their money to decorate their houses and buy candy for the neighborhood kids, get mildly annoyed by other adults adults horning in on the festivities and begging for candy.
Lieutenant_Joe t1_iuhymdc wrote
“It’s not normal, socially acceptable behavior”
Wonder what else you say that about?
MonsterByDay t1_iui4n07 wrote
1: Adults waiting in line to sit in Santa's lap at the mall
2: Adults participating in easter egg hunts
3: Adults loitering around playgrounds without kids
Pretty much any situation where adults are participating in activities designed for children. Don't try to turn it into something it's not.
Lieutenant_Joe t1_iui4zpk wrote
The first and third are uncomfortable for children/others, but an Easter egg hunt is usually a private event, so DOUBLE fuck you for judging people for how they have fun—often as a family—in their in their own time.
MonsterByDay t1_iui5br7 wrote
lol, okay..
DidDunMegasploded t1_iui9s2x wrote
Adults at playgrounds without kids?
Lmao, fuck your feelings, if I want to swing on the swingset at 24 then I can and I will. Lots of teens and adults who don't have kids do it.
So judgmental.
MonsterByDay t1_iuit5z1 wrote
I didn’t say they don’t. Lots of people also pick their noses/asses in public. People doing something isn’t a great test of whether it’s something that is likely to bother people.
I didn’t say that it’s illegal or even morally “wrong”. It’s just not normal - and liable to make people take critical notice.
You do you though. I’ve gotta finish getting my house ready for tonight. Still need to patch one of the inflatables, and buy another box of candy bars - I forgot to get a dairy free option.
Maybe I’ll even get some hard candies for any adults that show up..
DidDunMegasploded t1_iujccwm wrote
Adults are fine with mini Snickers and Kit-Kats, thank you. We all have an inner child who loves Halloween and loves candy but you seem to be an exception. Do I pity you...
fuhnetically t1_iuhjip6 wrote
Show me on this costumed doll where someone hurt you.
MonsterByDay t1_iuhlg2u wrote
I'm not "hurt", but it's definitely off putting when adults force themselves into activities that are clearly meant for children. Pretending it's not isn't going to do anyone any favors.
Trick-or-treating, easter egg hunts, and "sit in santa's lap" are all pretty clearly designed for specifically for kids.
There's a million parties tonight specifically planned for adults. Go to one of those.
sheeponabowl t1_iuhngwr wrote
If I wanna go trick or treating I’m going and you can’t say no.
MonsterByDay t1_iuhpneb wrote
Never said "can't". Only meant to imply "shouldn't".
Lieutenant_Joe t1_iuhz0ql wrote
So much more healthy to fill up your body with literal poison surrounded by a bunch of people you don’t know from Adam. Yeah.
Get the stick out of your ass.
MonsterByDay t1_iui3p60 wrote
You know you're not required to drink at parties right? And, if you go with friends, you're not surrounded by strangers.
Kind of like... every other night of the year.
Lieutenant_Joe t1_iui3wvz wrote
The world would be better off if sticks in the mud like you weren’t here to spoil innocent fun. Fuck off with your boomer energy.
MonsterByDay t1_iui9b2q wrote
Not a Boomer. Just a guy in his 30's that doesn't feel the need to buy candy for other adults.
But go ahead and beg for candy - the world needs bagars too. If you come around, I'll probably even throw you a couple tootsie rolls. But, I do reserve the full size bars for the kids.
Lieutenant_Joe t1_iui9ltz wrote
I’m staying home to give out candy, too. I’m just calling you a twatwaffle for being a dick to adults who want to have harmless fun.
MonsterByDay t1_iuixqr7 wrote
They can dress up and have fun all they want.
But if they expect me to spend my money to buy them a candy bar for doing it, they can go right ahead and pound sand.
I only budget like $200 on candy (~200 candy bars if you buy in bulk), so I generally run out at some point in the night. So that also means every “adult” that got one would be a little kid who didn’t.
Lieutenant_Joe t1_iuiypky wrote
lmao, that’s just dumb. I spent five dollars on bulk candy and it was enough to fill two giant bowls that should more than last the night. If you’re spending that much on candy just on Halloween night, then either you’re one of the most popular Halloween houses in the whole state or you’re terrible at budgeting.
MonsterByDay t1_iuj1y3j wrote
Twix bars - pack of 36 is like $30 on amazon - most other candy bars are about the same. I have to grab some skittles this afternoon because of all the dairy allergies - maybe they'll be cheaper at Sam's, but i expect I'm going to be paying more than $1/bag.
The neighborhood kids are always excited for the full size bars. So, I buy them for the kids. Even kids from other areas are cool. Really any kid is welcome - even kids without costumes.
DidDunMegasploded t1_iui9kr8 wrote
There was a thread I came across on Reddit yesterday that asked about this very thing, and a lot of people didn't mind adults trick-or-treating that didn't have kids.
Quit gatekeeping Halloween. The woman in the OP has never been trick-or-treating before. Show some sympathy and take the stick out of your anus instead of being judgmental just because she's 23 and going trick-or-treating.
MonsterByDay t1_iuideux wrote
He asked the question “would anyone care” the correct answer is “yeah; a fair number of people will”.
Not like it’s a moral issue. But pretending is totally normal is just setting them up for a nasty surprise when people are bothered.
DidDunMegasploded t1_iuigj01 wrote
Maybe you're just projecting. But Mainers aren't really like that. Generally, we're a laid-back bunch. If OP thought it was normal and accepted, then they wouldn't be asking this question. Thought logic.
MonsterByDay t1_iuinybb wrote
Mainers aren’t like what? Bothered by adults asking for candy you bought for kids?
I’ve been here my whole life, and all my neighbors and friends have as well. I was concerned that I was actually wrong and ran in informal poll at lunch. 10/10 of my coworkers said it’s definitely [at least] mildly annoying. They were split on whether they'd actually give them candy or tell them to go away.
DidDunMegasploded t1_iujdj84 wrote
Aha...sure. r/thathappened to all of this post. You're feeling so threatened by being wrong that you're resorting to lying? That's kinda sad.
But also yes, that is exactly what I mean. Mainers aren't usually bothered by adults who don't have kids with them going trick-or-treating and getting candy. Hell, I stopped trick-or-treating after 15, and when I did go, I'd see adults and high schoolers go trick-or-treating in costumes all the time in addition to kids. Some of them got candy, even. Not all, but some.
MonsterByDay t1_iuk7kna wrote
If I were going to lie I’d probably make up something a bit more grandiose than asking a few people at lunch. I’m honestly mystified at the disconnect between my entire life experience, and this thread. I’ve been making fun of teens/adults trick or treating since I was a teen. Aside from the developmentally disabled, I’ve never heard anyone mention it other than to complain.
But at the end of the day, I don’t particularly care what you believe. Go beg other adults for the candy they bought to give away to children, or whatever other little thing your heart desires.
Just know that a significant percentage of other adults will be judging you for it.
You do you.
Edit: this is assuming you’re not going with kids. Adults dressing up while accompanying kids is totally normal. The years I bring the kids out I totally dress up.
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