whiteeemily t1_iu0uzws wrote on October 27, 2022 at 6:47 PM

My number one piece of advice is to read The Primal Wound, talk to adult adoptees (including in online groups and spaces), and make sure you fully understand the trauma inherent in adoption before you begin. If you're not already, get comfortable with the concept of open adoption and of fostering kids' relationships with their families of origin.

simpleranger t1_iu17jds wrote on October 27, 2022 at 8:08 PM

I recommend reading about TPW before reading it. There is a lot of dated thinking included. So much has happened between the early 90s and today. Consider the differences between clinical observations and scientific study. Reactive attachment disorder is a real thing but there are leaps made in TPW that feel too far in my experience.