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Modsda3 t1_jaasd2a wrote

Best to call something like this out on the spot with an even toned "that's interesting, as I recall coming up with that. Mind talking after the meeting?"

You are now faced with trying to appeal to the conscience of someone who probably should have known not to take credit in the first place or stab you in the front during a work meeting. If it were me, and it mattered to my job in anyway, I would set the record straight with my boss by bringing the receipts. I would then have no problem correcting others when the project comes up. Lastly, I wouldn't feel like I owed the co-worker anything and would be more concerned approaching them for an apology or explanation would only open myself up for further abuse.

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kellogg888 OP t1_jaaxitv wrote

Thanks for saying this. I do find I have been bullied at work in the past and want to ensure history doesn't repeat itself there.

One concern I had with bringing it up is that they could gaslight me and say I was remembering it wrong. Now I see why it could be good to bring it up immediately. I didn't say anything in the moment because I felt angry and knew I should step back from the situation before acting.

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Mississimia t1_jacz8j1 wrote

It is okay to be angry when someone steals your idea and presents it as their own.

When you talk to your co-worker, send an email. Make sure everything is written down. Otherwise, they could potentially run to your boss and say "omg kellogg888 accused me of stealing her idea when it was definitely my idea, and she got really upset and belligerent." And then its just your word against his.

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