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stiff_muffins t1_j9bvbos wrote

Reply to comment by Kn14 in LPT: Never tell a coworker anything you don’t want the entire office to know by Basic-Ideal

Working exclusively with co worker on tons of projects. We got to know each other well. During lunch I dropped my guard, we shared a few personal items.

Later found out we run in similar friends groups, I was unaware until my phone popped off with tons of texts from a certain person in this group. Was not a great convo…it became a game of telephone booth with multiple people sharing a worse and worse version of the comment (which was exclusively about me).

Lesson learned. I keep everyone at arms length. No questions.

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BouncyDingo_7112 t1_j9d4zi2 wrote

Did you confront the coworker?

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stiff_muffins t1_j9d5x31 wrote

Yes. It was a candid, uncomfortable and necessary. We still work very well together but I consider this a learning experience.

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infusedpineapple t1_j9dffr6 wrote

How did you confront them?

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stiff_muffins t1_j9dkdxv wrote

A gentle text saying we need to talk, then a phone call solving the issue with a caveat we need to insure this doesn’t disrupt our work environment.

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infusedpineapple t1_j9ds94o wrote

How did you make it so it wasn’t attacking kind or that you came across as bigger person?

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stiff_muffins t1_j9dt8wr wrote

Just brought up what happened. What I told them was getting back to me, but with incorrect additions. Told them what I heard was from our mutual friend who they told earlier that day.

Asked if we could keep the conversation information private, get a clean slate and move past this and continue our fantastic work relationship.

Nothing accusatory, just facts. Receipts ready if needed. Thankfully we were on the same page.

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