the_original_Retro t1_jadcl10 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 4:58 PM

Reply to comment by I_Want_In_Too in LPT Request - how to respond to people who constantly try to one-up you and diminish your accomplishments? by idkifik

This isn't someone trying "more" to be your friend". Dunno how you possibly spun that out of it.

This is someone that's either insecure, hyper-competitive, or a narcissist, and they think they have to beat you rather than support you.

Friends congratulate each other on their successes. Sure there might be some joshing or occasional trash-talking involved, but at their heart, if they're not toxic, they're HAPPY for you. They're not trying to outclass you unless they have problems of their own.

I_Want_In_Too t1_jadna2d wrote on February 28, 2023 at 6:06 PM

You make great points. All I can think is, “it depends”. This is coming from a person that cuts people out of their life routinely. I don’t have time for negative people - but I do have a little time to help them. Maybe out of guilt from my past decisions.