Sauerteig t1_jacvcn7 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 3:05 PM

Reply to comment by Tvmouth in LPT Request - how to respond to people who constantly try to one-up you and diminish your accomplishments? by idkifik

"Stop talking about yourself". I'm just curious if someone is happy about an accomplishment they just had/made and they have to not mention it because why? Like "I got a promotion at work today!" to their friends? Or "I bought a house finally!". Are you saying people should not share their victories in life because of "one uppers"? Personally I'm happy to share joy with people, and happy to hear their happiness!. But can't if they never share their happiness. Your post seem to say folks should just shut up about anything they are proud of. That's not the same as a one upper at all.

Tvmouth t1_jaddrnw wrote on February 28, 2023 at 5:06 PM

Maybe I misunderstood, this is not a workplace issue where you have no control over the proximity to people that constantly require validation? People you choose to be around will have their own liberties, by all means, share your life in a way that isn't toxic, with people who aren't toxic. Duh? Are you 12 and still enslaved to family culture? Small Town mentality types blocking you into a defensive corner about your value to a small portion of the world population? Sorry if I misunderstood.