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Bryan_Mills2020 t1_jacnvap wrote

I would eliminate a toxic person like that from my life.

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Quiverjones t1_jadfggo wrote

Actually, there's a better way. 1 /\ here. Most happiness is from finding that you must look within to find true enjoyment from the success from your achievements.

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I_Want_In_Too t1_jad0yt2 wrote

They are trying *more to be your friend and you treat them as toxic and then abandon them? Hmm. I’d try talking to them about it first. Tell them you don’t appreciate them one upping all your stories.

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the_original_Retro t1_jadcl10 wrote

This isn't someone trying "more" to be your friend". Dunno how you possibly spun that out of it.

This is someone that's either insecure, hyper-competitive, or a narcissist, and they think they have to beat you rather than support you.

Friends congratulate each other on their successes. Sure there might be some joshing or occasional trash-talking involved, but at their heart, if they're not toxic, they're HAPPY for you. They're not trying to outclass you unless they have problems of their own.

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I_Want_In_Too t1_jadna2d wrote

You make great points. All I can think is, “it depends”. This is coming from a person that cuts people out of their life routinely. I don’t have time for negative people - but I do have a little time to help them. Maybe out of guilt from my past decisions.

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