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samtherat6 t1_j9xpefp wrote

I’m jealous, you seem like an honest person to be around. There are a few times where not instinctively showing emotions does pay off for me, like when I’m disappointed. But for a vast majority of the time, it makes me feel excluded.

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timmyboyoyo t1_j9y9gl5 wrote

Why not showing disappoint pay off?

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Absolei t1_j9zvvi5 wrote

Because what if someone got you something that they're really excited to give you, but it's just not something you want? If you show your disappointment to them, all it does is discourage them from getting you things in the future and makes them feel bad.

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timmyboyoyo t1_ja05jg2 wrote

But then they get you same things you don't real like

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Absolei t1_ja06y0q wrote

Sometimes you just have to say something like, "Oh, I'd like this thing!" During the course of the rest of the year. This makes it so they actually do get stuff you like but don't feel as if they shouldn't have gotten you anything. Honestly, I think what you do depends on how open to confrontation you are.

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