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mdlynch t1_j8jyqih wrote

If they perceive you standing up for yourself as an "attack" on them, that is a problem internal to them and you are not responsible for it in any way.

Let toxic people be toxic and suffer the consequences of their actions. You cannot save them if they do not want to change, and you should not waste your time, your energy or your life trying to.

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scopice t1_j8jz8od wrote

Exactly, very well put my friend, we can’t save everyone

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papaia27 t1_j8jzu6z wrote

You’re right, very insightful advice. Thank you

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mdlynch t1_j8k07xq wrote

You're welcome. I'm going through something similar with someone who is thankfully now in my past, so I understand how tough it can be and how wrong it can feel to think that your actions might be hurting them. But it's important to remember that some people are unreasonable, and it's their own actions and demands that are hurting them, not you - you're looking out for yourself, and that is what you should prioritize. It gets easier the more you do it.

Wishing you the best on all of this. <3

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