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CreamPyre t1_j8jxbu6 wrote

Just ghost them. Nothing wrong with that. You owe nobody an explanation either

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mdlynch t1_j8jxnl5 wrote

This. Literally just walk away. Stop talking to them, stop interacting with them, remove them on any social media. Do not engage if you see them in public.

I had to do this with a toxic ex recently, and it's literally as simple as telling yourself "I'm not doing this anymore" and being done with them.

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papaia27 t1_j8jygow wrote

Thank you, I’ve tried but I can’t help to think that they’re resenting me… I know it’s selfish

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boredlady819 t1_j8k0ush wrote

It doesn’t matter if they resent you. Make peace with your needs first and foremost. You don’t owe anybody anything.

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AdNew2999 t1_j8k1bf2 wrote

That’s kinda the point, if they’re negative people and they have negative thoughts about you (double negative) that’s good

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thunderberen t1_j8jwsal wrote

Leave then tell them as it is if asked for a reason.

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scopice t1_j8jwpem wrote

Have a backbone for yourself and tell people how you feel

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papaia27 t1_j8jx0lj wrote

That would be great but what’s the expected outcome in your point of view?

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scopice t1_j8jxdoe wrote

Stand up for yourself, if people are treating you or acting a certain way towards you that you don’t like you don’t owe anybody anything and/or have to hang out with them, and if they ask why then you tell them. You’ll feel a lot better about yourself once you realize you create your own destiny and attract whatever you want to attract into your life.

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papaia27 t1_j8jy8hb wrote

This is great advice and I do thank you for this, however, I don’t think they have the same mindset as we do about self-development and being a better version of ourselves. I think this would perceived as an “attack” and be even more toxic and spread bs that’s why I am trying to quiet quit and avoid confrontation.

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mdlynch t1_j8jyqih wrote

If they perceive you standing up for yourself as an "attack" on them, that is a problem internal to them and you are not responsible for it in any way.

Let toxic people be toxic and suffer the consequences of their actions. You cannot save them if they do not want to change, and you should not waste your time, your energy or your life trying to.

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scopice t1_j8jz8od wrote

Exactly, very well put my friend, we can’t save everyone

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papaia27 t1_j8jzu6z wrote

You’re right, very insightful advice. Thank you

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mdlynch t1_j8k07xq wrote

You're welcome. I'm going through something similar with someone who is thankfully now in my past, so I understand how tough it can be and how wrong it can feel to think that your actions might be hurting them. But it's important to remember that some people are unreasonable, and it's their own actions and demands that are hurting them, not you - you're looking out for yourself, and that is what you should prioritize. It gets easier the more you do it.

Wishing you the best on all of this. <3

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scopice t1_j8jyfd5 wrote

If that’s how you presume them to feel then simply ghost them, they don’t deserve a response from you if that’s how they want to act, block them, ignore all contact and go about your life if that’s what will truly make you happy, don’t let people hold you back, especially shitty friends

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LisaWinchester t1_j8jyzxb wrote

Come play with us? Nah, no time today, sorry. Maybe next week!

Keep it up until they stop contacting you

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keepthetips t1_j8jw8n3 wrote

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Paganoid_Prime t1_j8k5n0k wrote

Ask if they’ve ever heard the glorious gospel of your new Lord and Savior.
Operate as if being sucked into a cult. They prolly won’t even wave goodbye.

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