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awak2k t1_j9nfzx1 wrote

Reply to comment by DrRomeoChaire in LPT: Odds are you won't be the first person in your circle of friends to lose a parent to old age, but when you hear of the first one to go, heed the warning and make sure you're maximizing the time with those you love, because it's likely the bulk of the time you'll have with them is behind you. by JD2005

Also maybe something other than “ sorry for your loss” or worse “my condolences to you and your family”. After a bit, those particular words are almost infuriating coming in from everywhere.

Just let them know you love them and your there if needed. Original comment is valid, I suggest just doing it differently.

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DrRomeoChaire t1_j9nglg6 wrote

Absolutely, use whatever words feel right for you. The point is to acknowledge the loss, and it doesn’t have to be a big discussion (of course it can be, depending on the relationship) That’s all I was trying to say.

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awak2k t1_j9nh0ue wrote

For sure bud, hope you’re good anyway, it’s a shitty thing.

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DrRomeoChaire t1_j9nhl34 wrote

Yep, I’m good now thanks.

Before I lost someone myself, I always felt awkward about bringing it up, as if I’d be reminding them of something painful they’d forgotten and wouldn’t want to remember.

When it was my loss, the acknowledgments felt like someone cared.

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