Start by making a list of each room that you do things in, then list the different things in that room that change state. It is much easier to spot changes when you know what you're looking for. It also will help to watch when she cleans to see what is important to her.

• Kitchen
  • Sink: Clean dishes
  • Counters: Wipe counters
  • Floors: Sweep floors (daily) mop (weekly)
  • Dishwasher (load or empty)
• Bathroom
  • Towels: on hooks
  • Clothes: to laundry
  • etc
• Bedroom
  • bed
    • Unmade: make it
    • Clothes on it: put away
  • etc