jonhasglasses t1_j6i76x7 wrote on January 30, 2023 at 2:50 PM

I don’t think you can be a good conversationalist without sharing personal information. I strongly feel that a good conversationalist show vulnerability which encourages other people to share more. The easiest way to show vulnerability in a conversation is to talk about personal things. If you don’t share you are just interviewing I hate feeling interviewed when having a conversation.

obnoxiousab t1_j6icqfj wrote on January 30, 2023 at 3:28 PM

I disagree. I have had many many long conversations without sharing much. People hear what they want to hear.

There are so, so many things to speak deeply about without sharing much about yourself. Travel, arts, pop culture, food, wine, music is just a start. And you still don’t know lick about me.

I am very good at making people think I’m sharing, when I’m not at all. And they don’t think I’m interviewing them. That, plus people LOVE to hear themselves share. All up it makes me a fantastic conversationalist.

SPQC t1_j6j98n1 wrote on January 30, 2023 at 6:54 PM

I read this in the voice of Patrick Bateman.

o_-o_-o_- t1_j6jtcbk wrote on January 30, 2023 at 8:58 PM

>There is an idea of a Patrick Bateman, some kind of abstraction, but there is no real me. Only an entity, something illusory. And though I can hide my cold gaze, and you can shake my hand and feel flesh gripping yours and maybe you can even sense our life styles are probably comparable, I simply am not there.

SPQC t1_j6ju7j2 wrote on January 30, 2023 at 9:04 PM

>Travel, arts, pop culture, food, wine, music is just a start. And you still don’t know lick about me.
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>I am very good at making people think I’m sharing, when I’m not at all. And they don’t think I’m interviewing them.

Especially this part.

GermanRedditorAmA t1_j6isw03 wrote on January 30, 2023 at 5:13 PM

Sounds like you're better at manipulating than at having a conversation and I'm not sure why anyone would be proud of that.

obnoxiousab t1_j6j292h wrote on January 30, 2023 at 6:11 PM

I have true conversations when they are worth it. The hundreds of other “conversations” I have over the course of a week or month aren’t.

But thanks for the compliment!