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TR_KingCobrah t1_j6d8es0 wrote

I highly recommend reading a book called Atomic Habits, one of the things he pointed out was instead of saying to yourself, I "have" to do this thing instead say I "get" to do this thing. And instead of focusing on a specific goal, try to become the type of person that reaches that goal, focus on the identity. Also I know the times when I don't want to do something and I end up doing it I feel a thousand times better. discipline is doing things you know you have to do when you don't want to do it.

Example: personally I'm running to get in shape for a marathon I have to switch the goal in my mind from goal oriented to the identity of a runner. I completely understand his point of view because when I did my first half marathon in 2021 I got in shape I ran the marathon and then I got lazy because I didn't have a goal, so now with my mindset of having the identity of a runner in my mind it's much easier to train.

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permission777 OP t1_j6dgiki wrote

assuming the identity is a good one. thank you for the tip

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drAsparagus t1_j6fhefh wrote

And this is also a good way to conquer imposter syndrome.

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ThatsHisEagerFace44 t1_j6fpvqp wrote

What is imposter syndrome?

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StarSpongledDongle t1_j6g5r3p wrote

I want to tell you, but I feel like there are a lot of people better qualified than me to do it.

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ThatsHisEagerFace44 t1_j6g62gw wrote

I suppose I could get off my lazy bum and look it up

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9dnguy t1_j6i7xsb wrote

So what is it?

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jesuisserpent t1_j6in1vo wrote

They were making a joke playing off imposter syndrome. The best way to explain it is through example: let’s say I’m a successful CEO but I still look in the mirror and see my teenage self that made lots of mistakes and I think everyone else sees me the same way. So even though I AM a CEO factually and I do my job well enough to have it, I feel like an imposter because I feel too stupid to have it, unworthy, etc.

I think almost everyone has some form of imposter syndrome especially when people around you don’t treat you the way that you should be (like a mother over babying their adult child or something)

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Socal-vegan t1_j6fbuvc wrote

I have this book but I haven’t read it. Silly me used my goal as an incentive to want to do something rather than “have to” do something.

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Tsura-Len t1_j6ghabl wrote

Never thought about it like that. Thanks! I'll have to look this up. Personally I'm trying to run to get a little more in shape too and I do this exact mistake. I tell myself I HAVE to do it and I have no choice.

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