Sofarbeyondfucked t1_j1a1aic wrote
Aunt and Uncle were like this. She was forever accusing him of cheating, just wearing the poor man down. He reached his wit’s end and hooked up with someone.
“If I’m gonna have to put up with your shit I may as well at least get the pleasure.”
blizzardspider t1_j1a80qv wrote
This sounds like a hot take your uncle made up to make his cheating seem ok "I only started cheating after she accused me of it!". Even if it's true it still doesn't excuse cheating instead of just breaking up.
Sofarbeyondfucked t1_j1a9764 wrote
Yeah, I dunno. She was a bitch on wheels and he should have simply left her. But “family values.”
Cynical_Manatee t1_j1aa52w wrote
I was gonna say. Marriage in certain circles and cultures are view as more permanent than they really are. Divorce is not as easy as handing in a piece of paper to some people.
Grammophon t1_j1aaupq wrote
Someone who honestly cares for family values doesn't cheat on their partner because they are jealous. You really have to put down those rose tinted glasses.
Sofarbeyondfucked t1_j1aoq9j wrote
Yeah, no shit. Hence the quotes. Thanks for telling me what I know about my life.
FindTheRemnant t1_j1a69ic wrote
He cheated because he was tired of being accused of cheating? Yeah no.
The aunt was likely picking up on signs he was a cheat risk, and he eventually proved she was correct.
PhasmaFelis t1_j1a80zx wrote
> The aunt was likely picking up on signs he was a cheat risk
So she was punishing him for crimes he was going to commit, and that makes it okay?
I'm not saying he was right or justified to cheat, in the end. But the fact that he did doesn't retroactively excuse her abuse. Some bad situations don't have a good guy.
Let_you_down t1_j1ab2l7 wrote
Folks who accuse others of cheating come in three forms: Projection. Cheating or want to cheat themselves, accuse partner of it.
Paranoia: Insecurities, previous experiences, misogyny/misandry/misanthropy. These peeps will be controlling or abusive towards their partners. Neglectful, no love/romance, partner can't do anything right. Often done when a partner cannot easily leave the situation (marriage, living together, kids, etc).
Folks who just get it: Very empathetic people who pick up on cues and the emotional state of other people.
If it was the third, I imagine aunt would have approached it differently. Peeps with that level of empathy and intuition are going to avoid most of those problems before they become a problem, and they certainly address problems differently than that.
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