Big dick energy might not be the right word for it, but he's not wrong. Successful women want confident men who know what they want. They don't have to be disrespectful to get it though.

Confidence is the number 1 thing most women agree is attractive in a mate. Some want immature arrogance. But most just want confidence. Being maturely confident is a skill most adults never master. Hence looking for confidence in a man, isn't the trait you really want to start with.

Most men who are considered confident, cross the line into arrogance.