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Machopsdontcry t1_j15fs6h wrote

"No, but I have some personal issues and need some space for the time being, I hope you can understand"

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slimzimm t1_j15qdw1 wrote

Then that is a lie, you can’t say yes while saying no.

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el-chicharo t1_j16duy4 wrote

Agreed. Also, it doesn't address the behavior

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APileOfShiit t1_j16j4ik wrote

It may not be the behaviour of the person asking the question, perhaps the person being asked is acting in a manner that seems to be annoyance, but is just social exhaustion.

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[deleted] t1_j15qj2f wrote

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slimzimm t1_j15raep wrote

My friend, you can be honest. Straight up lying isn’t helpful. “Am I annoying you?” “I can see you’re trying to blow off some of that great energy you’ve got but yes it’s a little bit much for me right now”. When being honest, you just have to be choosey about how it’s said. You don’t have to be a dick, just use your words.

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OrphanSkate3124 t1_j15taoh wrote

But why am I a dick for answering the question? Why is it my fault they asked a question they didn’t actually want the answer to?

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jetty_junkie t1_j15rlny wrote

If they asked I assume the genuinely want to know. It’s one thing to pretend it’s not annoying to spare their feelings but when someone flat out asks I feel obligated to be honest otherwise why would they ask a question they didn’t want an honest answer to

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magicplatypus2 t1_j167mat wrote

Unfortunately in my experience 99% of the time people ask if they’re being annoying they’re feeling insecure and looking to get validation that they are not in fact being annoying

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jetty_junkie t1_j16810i wrote

Then that’s on them. If they ask a sincere question they deserve a sincere answer. If you want to play guessing games about their sincerity level that’s your choice but it tends to be a fool’s errand IMO

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